Let my own challenge begin…

How does it feel to be married to a man who is voluntarily choosing to put his life in danger to accomplish his dream of rowing the Pacific solo in 2016?

I am asked this question a lot. My answer, I have no choice.

Our story so far has been a whirlwind. In a year we have met, fallen in love, married and moved to an idyllic cottage in Gloucestershire. The fairytale does exist. However, Charlie’s desire to be the charitable adventurer has been the third person in our relationship from the start. I will never truly understand the psyche behind this selfish ambition of his and nor does he.

Yes, his next adventure is masked behind ‘being for a good cause’. This part I understand. But whilst his journey will take extreme endurance, solitude and mental strength, my journey, and for those closest to him, is seemingly also just as challenging.

My role as his wife is to provide him with a loving home, nurture him and build on our marriage. How can I bear to be apart from him for all those months, or sleep at night knowing that he is willingly in the middle of an ocean, alone, cold and that Mother Nature could play a disastrous hand with catastrophic consequences at any time? How will it feel every time the phone rings? My answer, I have no choice.

I’m not too sure if there are many support groups for the wives and families of those who choose to undertake extreme challenges. Perhaps this is where my research should start. Whilst the key word in his Pacific challenge is ‘solo’, a small strong team of people will be working behind the scenes to support him practically and emotionally. Wives and family members aren’t so fortunate to be offered this, and we just have to ‘get on with it’.

I have until April 2016 to prepare myself for my biggest challenge yet in supporting my husband in something that I fundamentally disagree with. Perhaps with your help we can achieve this together?


The Man and The Angel

Veterans In Action

 

 

 

 

 

The “Man” – Several years ago, Ben Goss, Adrian Bell and I were sitting down to our first “Pacific 2012” meeting in a well known coffee shop chain in Reading when I received a call from Billy MacLeod. Billy, a former Sapper (Royal Engineer) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder sufferer was seeking support to enable him to help others suffering from PTSD.

I spoke with Ben (Chairman of Give Them a Sporting Chance (GTaSC)) and asked whether the charity could assist Billy. It only took a few moments for Ben to realise that GTaSC could help Billy and therefore help others through PTSD.

Billy’s dream was realised and Veterans In Action (VIA) was born. VIA, under Billy’s leadership, has gone from strength to strength helping those who suffer from PTSD. You can find more information at www.veteransinaction.org.uk

Last week I had the pleasure of visiting the VIA ALIVE Centre and meeting Billy. Our meeting confirmed that I still support Billy and VIA and I’m pleased to announce that I plan to support VIA through my return to The Pacific in 2016.

 

 

Melissa Adams Angelman Foundation

 

 

 

 

 

“The Angel”Last week, I was made aware of a little girl called Melissa. Melissa suffers from a rare genetic disorder called “Angelman Syndrome”. Melissa can’t speak, nor can she sleep and so this Syndrome affects every part of her life and also her family’s.

Melissa’s Mum has set up a foundation in the hope that a cure can be found for this rare disorder, you can find more information here www.researchangelman.org.uk and www.facebook.com/researchangelman.org.uk

Having communicated with Melissa’s Mum, I have asked a few of my London to Paris rowing event friends to join me in undertaking a challenge for Meliss, where we will aim to raise funds for and awareness of Angelman Syndrome. I hope I can count on you for your support.